Outgrowing Women You Love

When Your body knows-- And You Override It

There’s a moment.

You’re mid-conversation—and something shifts.

She says something. Or maybe she doesn’t.

But your body?

It knows.

A tightening. A pause. A quiet “hmm…”

And right on cue—you want to override it.

Laugh it off. Smooth it over. Keep it easy.

That’s the old move.

And then…

There are those other moments.

The ones that feel like BAM.

I had one today with a dear sister girl—same starseed stock. We see each other maybe once a year.

But when we do?

We don’t ease in. We drop in.

Astral-level convo. Mountain-moving energy. No buffering. No performing. No translation needed.

And right there in it—we hit the topic:

Why do some friendships start to feel… tight?

Why the squeeze?

Because here’s what’s actually happening:

You’re evolving. You’re spiraling up.

And your brain?

It’s wired for safety. Familiarity. Same patterns. Same dynamics. Same tone.

It doesn’t care about your expansion.

It cares about what it recognizes.

So when you start showing up different— more honest, more present, more you—

Your system flags it:

“Uhhh… this isn’t what we usually do.”

And the urge?

Is to go back. Smooth it out. Stay in the known.

But what if you didn’t?

What if you recognized the squeeze for what it is:

Not a problem. Not a broken friendship.

Just the friction between who you’ve been and who you are now.

In the moment, this is the work

You feel it.

That tightening. That pull to perform.

And instead of overriding it…

You stay.

“I’m tightening.” “I’m about to smooth this over.” “I’m about to leave myself.”

And then—

You don’t.

The old pattern is urgency. The new practice is staying.

You’ve got options:

Say something real. Say less. Pause. Or exit clean.

No performance required.

If it feels edgy… good

That edge?

That’s you not abandoning yourself.

And here’s the reframe that cracked it wide open for me today:

This is a practice.

You’re not “losing” people. You’re not fucking anything up.

You’re learning how to live in an upward spiral while your brain is still wired for the familiar loop.

So when it kicks up?

You don’t fight it. You don’t obey it.

You just let it know:

“Hey… I’ve got this. Thank you—but no thank you right now.”

After? Don’t turn on yourself

No replay. No second-guessing.

Move your body. Let it land.

You stayed.

That’s the shift.

This is the moment

The moment you feel the squeeze is the moment your real work begins.

Right there.

Not later. Not alone.

You don’t need to blow anything up.

You just stop leaving yourself.

And yeah…

That changes everything.